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I am totally in favor of keeping kesh n propagating Sikhism , but lets for a minute consider the number of Sikh girls marrying non-sikh men , i had been to a Sikhi meet recently the girls are more inclined towards clean shaved mens but admitted to marrying a sikh men solely because of family pressure and a safe future in terms of money and family benefits. This girl can be your sister, friend or any one in the family its just that they cant share their feelings openly n risk being considered as n atheist . On be asked the reason for their preference for clean shaved mens they added that the looks where more appealing and charming, there was more interaction with men from other religion (its not every where that the sikhs are in majority), Un-attractive sikh boys, some of them considered & admitted to them being a down right turn-offs ,the traditional mentality of non-dating amongst sikh families( it is a common phenomena in Indian families so i spoke against this point and defended being a sikh) leading to non-possibility of a long term relationship .The prospect of sikh boys/men isnt exactly bright,besides facing the delima of experiencing the feeling of being un-wanted & non-appealing by sikh girls ,what makes the situation worse is that if the girls of their own race dont look forward 2wrds being with them then non-sikh girls are out of the question!! Where sikh girls have the liberty to trim,wax or pluck eyebrows guys have it worse then them being considered as the Flag bearers of their religion( why are girls considered any less important and given the freedom to do things that sikh boys are not allowed , 4get allowed they are considered to be committing a sin even the thought of cutting hair flashes through their mind) commenting on the problems related with maintaing hair, Gurvinder Singh added " Problems are realted to day-to-day life and doing simple things like hitting the gym. Tying the beard is practically useless, n without a tied beard i look pathetic , i cannot indulge in any physical activities like sports(swimming,running,football,etc.besides the beard the judaa has 2 be maintained while indulging in any of the above, a slight tackle in football,making a dive in the water, all risk the undoing of the juda as well " another sikh shared his feeling about feeling miserable to have not dated a single girl despite the optimism "I am 21years old now, it might be silly thing but lets get a bit real here before being a sikh, a boy is a boy & a girl's a girl first.Then a sikh, having an interest in the opposite sex is just natural n the feeling of being un-wanted does not boosts some ones confidence and not leading a normal life or doing something normal as running to catch a train or a bus for college/work life can be quit taxing. All this just so that u dont end up at work/college looking miserable then u already are, another one Maninder Tollani added" u look at a grown up sikh boy's life and then at just another normal guys life he has the liberty to do things on a short notice act fast n quick without having to spend time their looks, i will back it up by a fact 60-80% sikh men tie their hair.. none of them can claim to get-up.. wear a t-shirt n b on their way to doing things.. Gym,tutions and any other day-to-day activity.. a sikh men can simply not afford such liberty.. i am not saying that i am lazy but i can not give up on life like this"there were more experiences shared at the summit but i cant share all of them (due to the limited characters).. the point that i am trying to bring to light here is that, keeping hair should not be mandatory but a choice and something as holy as a persons religion should be followed with complete faith,liberty and dignity and not by force or Bandish(restriction) we say sikhism is the most librated religion, lets make efforts towards making one and be Proud about being a SIKH.
